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Perception is Not Reality

Earlier this week, I read this post on Aiming Low. The author makes good points about people judging you by the company you keep (and about teenagers not always caring when parents point this out).

Right or wrong, people really do judge. I will not dispute that point. I’m guilty of it. Who isn’t? Where the argument breaks down, in my opinion, is the assertion that perception is reality. I’ve heard that before, but…It. Crawls. All. Over. Me.

The Breakfast Club, instead of proving the point, actually proves its opposite, if I remember correctly. They all had their perceptions of each other and clung to them with the desperation usually only a teenager can muster. After spending the day together, though, they did realize they weren’t just “the Jock, the Brain, the Criminal, the Princess and the Kook.”

In my opinion, perception is only reality for someone who is shallow or who chooses not go to the trouble to know someone past the first impression. For those unfortunate people, perception may be their personal reality. It is a false reality, though, that we should all strive to avoid at all costs.

Be better than that.